Maybe you want to be more popular at work to get ahead in your career, or maybe you want to enjoy your working day more? You might see that you could have more rewarding relationships with your work colleagues by being more popular. For some people, being popular comes easy, for others a little work is needed to make the changes. These are some ideas that can increase your popularity:
1. Don’t Try Too Hard.
If you are overly fake not only will you find being this way unsustainable but people will read through you. Aim for a more popular version of yourself.
2. Like Yourself.
Being comfortable with who you are makes you more confident, which is an attractive quality. Negativity from having a low opinion of yourself can rub of onto others, which can tend to cause them to avoid you. Some self-deprecation can be a good thing in moderation and when done in a humorous manner. Taking yourself too seriously is not an attractive quality and can stop you being fun to be around.
3. Be Generous.
This doesn’t mean being a walk over; this is more a case of not being quick to judge, being gracious when mistakes are made by others and being considerate to those who are having problems. Look for the best in your colleagues and be ready to pay compliments, give your support and be available to help. This also goes for youreself too; treat yourself with respect and consider your needs as well as those of others. Your colleagues are more likely to respect you and treat you appropriately.
4. Don’t Show-Off.
Nobody is impressed by name dropping or bragging and boasting is not an attractive quality. Let you qualities and actions speak for you. Your colleagues will be more impressed with your humility rather than an obvious need to gain praise or admiration.
5. Avoid Office Gossip and Judging Others.
Try to lead by example. Avoid talking negatively about colleagues behind their backs and instead of judging, behave in the way you would like to be treated and and lead by example.
Make it more personal and demonstrate to others the value you place on your colleagues by remembering and referring to them by their names. Don’t ignore your colleagues, be it an email request or passing each other in the corridor. A ‘hello’, enquiring how they are, or a quick chat does wonders in building relationships, showing yourself as a friendly individual rather than an unknown and unapproachable colleague.
7. Avoid Preconceptions.
Preconceptions that you will not be liked or will embarrass yourself when communicating with your colleagues can hold you back. If you enter a situation believing this you are more likely to come across as shy, nervous and unfriendly and create a self fulfilling prophecy. Instead, enter situations believing you will be liked and have something interesting and valid to say. You will come across more relaxed and friendly and will have more positive reactions from others.
Bio: Jen Smith is a Life Coach, Mentor & Writer. She has tried many career paths herself and now helps people achieve their goals and dreams.